Objective Truth Language Patterns
Objective TruthTM can only be created by the use of specific, neutral language patterns. A classic example for this is:
Am I right? vs Is IT true?
Many people have gotten used to an insidious language pattern that goes like this: “So, if you would have called the client 30 minutes before the meeting we would have found out that they needed 20 more units of our widgets… am I right?”
Am I right is mostly used in situations where we have a powerful opinion and want to express the truth of this opinion… and we want to create buy-in!
What we have achieved is the polar opposite.
For me to be right someone else must be wrong… maybe you!
By proving to you that I am right and you are wrong I have created instant resistance to my plans. Consciously or unconsciously your ego will have a moment of: “Gosh… I look like a fool now, he IS right and I wish he’d not put me on a spot like that!... Now I will HAVE to do what he says…”
Create Buy -> In Is IT true?
Replace “am I right?” by “is IT true” and observe the magic difference you have created: “IT” is a neutral word, this neutral word allows your conversation partner to agree that, indeed, IT is true that such and such would work better. You have just submitted a powerful new idea to another person without forcing them to admit that YOU are right.
Anything else? vs What else? 1 Question To Boost Your Productivity
A classic idea - and feedback-killer in any meeting is the “anything else” question. Many a meeting has died a silent death, never reaching it’s full potential because a participant asked this question looking to elicit more information, new ideas or crucial feedback from the people present.
Would you like a chocolate?
Lets test the power of anything against what with a simple example:
You are a dinner guest at my house. We have enjoyed a great dinner and it is time for desserts. I have a special treat for you and all fellow guests: handmade Belgian chocolate fresh from Brussels! I go from guest to guest with an assortment of gorgeous confectionery and each guest chooses a chocolate.
After 15 minutes I come back with the tray loaded with a few more of the precious delicacies… I approach you and ask “Any more chocolate?”
After 15 minutes I come back with the tray loaded with a few more of the precious delicacies… I approach you and ask “What other chocolate would you like?”
Which of both questions will get you to refrain from choosing a chocolate and which question will guide you to take another chocolate?
The answer is quite simple: ‘any’ is a closing question that expects a negative answer… ‘what’ is a specific question that directs you to take a specific positive action: in this case choose another chocolate.
The same applies for meetings at your company: if you are looking to elicit the full power of your team’s know how always ask “what else do we need to do…?”, “what other ideas do we have so we can crack into account X…?”, and watch the really fruitful ideas tumble right into your lap!
Using ‘what’ increases the average results in brainstorms, problem solving and fact finding sessions by an average of 50%!
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Article written by: Roger Konopasek
Author, International Speaker, Trainer and Transformational Leadership Catalyst."
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